Students with disabilities may face many struggles including feeling confident in educational settings and social situations. By recognizing and helping students with low self-esteem early, we can give them the tools and support they need to develop a positive self-image, improve their social skills, and reach their full potential in school and beyond.

 

Key Indicators in Recognizing Signs of Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem can show up in our child’s behavior. It can look like avoiding school, feeling discouraged about their abilities, being too hard on themselves, or struggling to make friends. Let’s take a look at some common indicators below:

Behavioral Indicators

• • Your child may avoid social interactions or seem withdrawn from friends and classmates.
  • They might be reluctant to join classroom activities or participate in group work.
  • You may notice they are overly defensive or too hard on themselves when things don’t go as planned.

 

Emotional Indicators

• • Your child may seem frustrated, sad, or express feelings of helplessness.
  • They might be very sensitive to feedback or feel upset after even small mistakes.
  • There could be a strong fear of trying new tasks or taking on challenges, even when they are capable.

 

Academic Indicators

• • Your child might refuse to try assignments or show little effort in completing schoolwork.
  • They may have trouble staying consistent in their performance or avoid certain subjects altogether.
  • They may express dislike for group projects or public presentations, feeling anxious about them.

 

Physical Indicators

• • Look out for changes in posture, such as slouching, avoiding eye contact, or fidgeting.
  • Stress may appear in signs like biting their nails, tapping their feet, or shaking their hands.
  • You may notice a decline in personal care or a lack of interest in their appearance.

Addressing Concerns in a Positive Way

 

Listen and Get Information

• • Ask the teacher for specific examples of the changes they’ve noticed. 
  • Ask if these changes are new or have been happening for a while. This can help you determine if something specific, like a new school year, is causing the changes.

 

Keep an Open Mind

• • Understand that changes in behavior or mood may be linked to external factors, such as social struggles, academic pressure, or personal difficulties.

 

Talk with Your Student

• • Gently, ask your child how things are going at school. Have they been expressing any frustrations about school?

 

Create a Supportive Home Environment

• • Let your student know it’s okay to feel upset or frustrated and encourage them to talk about their feelings. Remind them that they are loved and capable.
    

 

Keep Communication Open

• • Ask the teacher for suggestions on how you can support your child at home.
  • If appropriate, ask about school-based resources like counseling or additional support services. If your child has an IEP or 504 Plan, this may be a good time to review and update where needed. 
  • Consider setting up periodic check-ins with the teacher (find out their preferred contact via email, phone call, or in person) to monitor your student’s progress. 

 

Resources

How to Help Kids with a Learning Disorder Build Confidence: ChildMindInstitute